Aegipan's Lament
So, I'm a hippy........surprise, in every way, shape or form. Both environmentally, socially, politically, and asthetically. I recently ended a relationship with a most kynd girl, who went from hippy to Amerikan in less than 2 months. Is it possible I was lied to for 4 years? I'm talking complete turn-around here people. She was so beautiful in her patchwork skirts and windblown hair. Now she just looks like every other girl. Now its a veritable snowstorm of shoes, purses, and earrings of rediculous preportions. It just makes me sick, to be quite frank. And its not just the looks either, she has a new metrosexual boyfriend who is WAY too fond of European driving caps, and she refuses to read anymore (apparently no longer enjoys it), which to me is like a both-eyes-open vote for ignorance. No more talk of politics, or environmental activism, or anything at all worth while - and you can forget about volunteer work or any actual work towards a goal as well (can anyone say .83 GPA). However, should I want to talk about the coolest damn people in our city and their assorted projection-screened TV's and Lexus, well then she just can't shut up. I recognize that this is probably an everything anti-me stage and all, but it seems like she really has just decided to buckle down and join the rest of the sheeple. What happened? Why is everyone so scared to be different? I am so tired of this, my exodus from this city is almost here and I won't have to think about any of this anymore, I just can't help the feeling that American Pie has fled once again in the face of Amerikan Buy. Any wisdom? Stacey? Anyone? Goddamn, I could use a tree right now. Preferable oak, and a stream....yeah, an oak and a stream would be just about right.
posted by Unknown at 9:42 AM
2 Comments:
Hmmm ... I'm thinking on this for you and will get back to you with an answer. Hang tight.
7:58 PM
OMW
rubber bands
A relationship is like two people walking with a large rubber band holding them in sync. There are times in the relationship that the rubber band is stretched tightly between the two but that gentle (or sometimes not so gentle) pull of the band keeps either from straying to far from the other. As long as both progress in a fairly mutual pace, the strain is minimal. That kind of give and take is normal in any relationship.
The problem in most relationships is when one stops progressing or decides to go in an opposite direction. That strain will cause the rubber band to snap and break. That generally leaves one or both parties somewhat confused, as each sees the direction they are taking as the normal progression of their inner actions. They cannot, for the life of them, understand why the other would be confused or surprised.
It can never be stressed enough in any relationship (family, work, romantic, or otherwise) that the key is, and will always be, communication. Why are we surprised when some action of ours startles those around us? It is because we have not been communicating our feelings or intents. When we are shocked by the actions of a loved one, it is because there has been a break down in communication.
The communication level between Tammy and I just amazes me. We talk about anything and everything. We talk online (email), on the phone (cells when we are at the same store in different parts .. Sometimes), in person, and through longing looks and glances. We rarely miss any opportunities to talk. That is not to say there aren't times that she or I will hold back some insignificant piece of info or something that one does that bugs the other, but most of those are minors. Eventually, minors get promoted to majors if they are left unrelated. Fortunately for us, very few minors are ever allowed to become majors.
Even our perfect (or so our friends say) relationship has its bumps in the road. But communication makes a great shock absorber.
Just my twisted take.
8:48 AM
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